Sex With A Man: Expectation Vs. Reality

Sex can be a splendid thing, but occasionally our expectations about sex versus the reality can be quite skewed toward the realm of ultimate fantasy. Case in point: Sex with a man. Yes, there are some dudes out there who can uncover the secret wonders of a woman’s unknowns so easily, you may think he’s a Sex Sensei. But then, there are most men who are wonderful too, but flawed human beings just like the rest of us. That doesn’t always stop us from having certain, and sometimes ridiculous, expectations though.

Hollywood stallions has put it in our heads that sex often comes with romantic music, fits of passion on top of cluttered counters, flawless lighting, and minor acrobatics. Similarly, mainstream porn gives us an unrealistic view of how sex looks. But when it comes time to do have sex in the real world with an actual man, there may be a lot more awkward fumbling, accidental injuries and ill-timed noises than the magic of cinema leads us to believe. In the end, that’s all OK though. The laughs, embarrassing moments and mishaps are things you actually remember. Having sex with a guy you care about and can communicate well with is going to be good regardless, so feel free to LOL over some of the expectations you may have previously had.

1. Expectation: You Look At Him, And He’s Suddenly Hard Forever

I am putting on all the moves and wearing my sexiest bra and panties, so this won’t be an issue.

Reality: He Needs A Little Work

Yes, he may get a boner at the most inopportune moments, but they’re not just a switch you can activate. Even though porn makes it look like everyone can get aroused right on the spot, we know that’s definitely not true for women’s arousal, and it’s not always true for guys either.

Expectation: A Lengthy Amount Of Foreplay

Tonight we’re busting out the massage oils and searching each other’s Wonderland’s like an old John Mayer

Reality: Rushes Right Into It

OK, we both have work in the morning so let’s just get right into it and call it a night. We can do that foreplay stuff tomorrow.

Expectation: He’s Going To Hit The G-Spot For Hours!

I read about this new position online that allows for immediate G-spot action guaranteed to blow your mind!

Reality: Wait, Do I Even Have A G-spot?

Are we doing this right? Did he find it? Can I even find it? Do I actually have a G-spot or am I some unlucky sub-human?

Expectation: I Will Be One Of The Rare Unicorns To Have A Vaginal Orgasm

Once again, did my research online and the two of us are ready to do all the moves so I can finally experience the fabled vaginal orgasm.

Reality: Or Not

Is everyone lying to me? Getting on top again so we can get some clit action going.

Expectation: Switching Up Positions Like Two Regular Porn Stars

He’s a mighty super hero in the sack, ready to flip me over, lift me over his head, and do just about any other mystical thing only Sex Gods can do.

Reality: We May Have Some Awkward Injuries After This

He tried to switch from missionary to doggy and we both bumped our heads on the headboard. OW.

Expectation: Nicholas Sparks Will Write Pages About Us

Tonight we are going to make love a la The Notebook filled with unwavering intimacy and connection. It’ll be just the two of us, colliding together as if we were melding into one another.

Reality: A Lot Of Awkward Noises We’re Just Going To Ignore

His dog is sitting there and watching us as the bed creaks and neither of us can stop laughing.

Expectation: We Are Going All Night This Time

We both drank espresso with dinner, and tonight will finally be the night where we do nothing but have sex. He’s even researched some mental tricks and positions so he can last longer. Let’s do this. #sexmarathon

Reality: 10 Minutes Later, We’re Both Kind Of Exhausted

That was nice, but I’m feeling pretty sleepy.

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Why Women Fake (and No Longer Fake) Having Orgasms

Whether it was one time during a hook-up, a few times when we were younger, or a more regular pattern in a longer-term relationship, most women report having faked an orgasm. But sex research continues to suggest that faking orgasms has a negative impact on our sexual satisfaction. After all, if we’re acting as though our partner’s touches and techniques are more enjoyable than they really are, we aren’t only steering our partner down the wrong path in terms of what they think we like, we’re missing out maximizing our own sexual pleasure.

So how common is faking orgasms among women? And, is it possible, given the increased attention on the downfalls of orgasm-faking and the much overdue focus on female pleasure-taking, that we’re seeing a shift in terms of how many women are faking their orgasms?

New Research

In a new study just published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, Debby Herbenick and colleagues explored prevalence rates of women who reported faking orgasms at some point in their lives, as well as those who reported no longer faking orgasms. They specifically focused on the potential role of sexual communication and sexual satisfaction.

The study included 1,008 women between the ages of 18 and 94 who responded to a confidential Internet-based survey. The women were mostly heterosexual and they all lived in the United States. The results indicate that 58.8 percent of participants reported faking an orgasm at some point in time, but two-thirds of those who had ever faked an orgasm in the past indicated they no longer did. 

Reasons for Faking Orgasms

The most common reasons women gave for having previously faked an orgasm were:

  1. They wanted their partner to feel successful (57.1 percent).
  2. They wanted sex to end because they felt tired (44.6 percent).
  3. They liked their sexual partner and didn’t want them to feel bad (37.7 percent).

Reasons for No Longer Faking Orgasms

The most common reasons for no longer faking orgasms were:

  1. Feeling more comfortable now with sex, whether or not an orgasm occurred (46.6 percent).
  2. Feeling more confident with themselves as a woman (35.3 percent).
  3. Feeling like their partner accepts them and is happy with them, even if they don’t have an orgasm (34.0 percent).

Communicating Sexual Needs

The authors hypothesized that lack of sexual communication may be partially responsible for orgasm faking. After all, if we can clearly tell our partner how and where we like to be touched, and if they are receptive to hearing our likes and curiously asking questions, we have a better chance of experiencing sexual pleasure. In contrast, if we don’t feel comfortable talking about sex with our partner, or have a partner who isn’t open to hearing what we like or want, there is less of a chance that our needs will be met.

The results of this study support this logic. Specifically, when the authors looked at women who reported that they have faked, and continue to fake, orgasms, these women indicated that they found explicitly talking about sex with a partner to be embarrassing and were less likely to agree that they and their partner are able to talk about what makes sex more pleasurable for them. The authors noted that the youngest age bracket (women 18-24 years old) were significantly more likely to say they didn’t know how to ask for what they wanted.

Over half the sample in this study (55.4 percent) indicated that they wanted to communicate with a partner regarding sex but decided not to. When the authors asked why they did not communicate about sex, these women were most likely to indicate that they did not want to hurt their partner’s feelings (42.4 percent), that they did not comfortable going into sexual details (40.2 percent), and embarrassment (37.7 percent).article continues after advertisement

Finally, the authors found that women who “strongly agreed” with the statement “I feel comfortable using the word clitoris” were significantly more likely to report higher levels of sexual satisfaction compared to those who “strongly disagreed” with this statement. These women were also less likely to still fake orgasms. Women who were less likely to fake orgasms also strongly agreed with the statement “my partner and I are able to talk specifically about what makes sex more pleasurable for us.”


Faking orgasms is a commonly reported experience for many women. Many women have not been encouraged to prioritize or advocate for their sexual pleasure and many of us still struggle to use anatomically correct language for female genitalia. The results from this study suggest that women who are more comfortable talking to their partners about their sexual preferences and feel comfortable using correct terms for their sexual anatomy (i.e., clitoris) are less likely to fake orgasms and more likely to be sexually satisfied. The context of having a sexual partner who doesn’t put pressure on women to have an orgasm, and who is receptive to communication and feedback, is also a key component in creating a more comfortable place for women to vocalize their sexual wants and needs.

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Top 6 absolute worst places to get married in America

Is there anywhere worse to get married than a cemetery? Apparently, yes.

The officials of Wisconsin Memorial Park cemetery in Brookfield, Wisconsin decided that it’s time to expand their business. With five chapels, a reception hall and kitchen, they’ve realized that their facilities are suitable for far more than funerals. In fact, they can’t imagine a better place to hold a baptism. Or Bar Mitzvah. Or for that matter, a wedding.

Already, several couples have tied the knot amongst Wisconsin Memorial Park’s headstones. One bride, who’s employed at the cemetery, chose to exchange vows with her now-husband at her grandmother’s burial site, wearing the same dress that her grandmother wore on her own wedding day.

Another bride placed her hand on her late father’s mausoleum before walking down the aisle, considering the small gesture something akin to being given away. 

Denise Westerfield, spokeswoman for Stewart Enterprises, Inc., which operates Wisconsin Memorial Park and 360 other funeral homes across the country, explained that “Funerals are becoming much more a celebration of life than a dark event, so why not have your wedding at a funeral home?”

We don’t know if we totally agree with Westerfield. No matter how you slice it, funeral homes are still about death. But we certainly think there are worse places to get married. Much worse. Below are just a few of them.

1. In prison

When your groom is wearing a bright orange jumpsuit, it’s hard to pick out just the right bridesmaid dresses or flowers. Add to that the fact that you will be on the other side of bullet-proof glass while exchanging your vows, where swapping rings, lighting a unity candle, and kissing the bride are pretty much impossible.

2. In Las Vegas

There are a million reasons why this is a bad idea, and you already know all of them. But if you’re so drunk, sleep-deprived, or high on video blackjack that you can’t remember why it’s a bad idea to marry that cocktail waitress/stripper/third-grade crush you just reunited with on Facebook, allow us to give you a small, but terrifying reminder: Britney Spears.

3. Behind a shotgun

Another reason to use contraception, people.

4. At the mall

Over 5,000 couples have tied the knot in the nation’s largest shopping center, the Mall of America. But do you really want to be one of them? Sure, you can ride the roller coaster immediately after saying “I do,” and all your guests will be able to pick up wedding presents for you right on the spot.

But before you hop a plane to Minneapolis, remember that no matter how classy you try to make your mall wedding event, no one will ever be able to forget that you got married at a place that sells NASCAR garters alongside the bouquets.

5. On national television

So you’ve got a low IQ and want to be on television? There are other options. They’re called the People’s Court and Cops. Check them out before trying to marry a millionaire or farmer or former NFL cheerleader on TV.

6. The Parma Splashpad

As much as I bother my boyfriend about it he will not marry me under the pelican spout at the Parma splashpad…

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7 Reasons Why Love And Sex Go Together

Love and sex are two different things. However, there are very different opinions in the society about how they connect. Some believe that the two are almost interchangeable. They assume that if sex is present, then love is as well. This can lead down some very rough roads. Others believe that the two aren’t connected at all. They believe that you can easily have one without the other without any lasting effects. However, there are many reasons why love and sex go together, including the following:

Can My Relationship Survive With Just Sex?

  1. Love and Sexual Desire Come from The Same Place

If you want to leave emotion and opinion out of the debate about if love and sex go together, science has proven that they are connected. Canadian researchers conducted a study in 2012 that found the part of your brain that handles emotions is where sexual desire comes from. Both emotional love and sexual desire are from the insular cortex. These findings lead people to believe that the two are connected to a level that removes our choice from it. We can choose to have sex when love is not present, but it can be difficult for emotions to handle.

Sexual desire and love lead to some of the same reactions in your brain. That means it can be easy to confuse what you are experiencing. This is why some people struggle to think that they are in love after they have sex when the other person doesn’t. Science also explains that this makes sex even better when you are in love because you are getting a double dose of the chemicals that make you feel good. We’ll explain these later in the article.

  1. Love Makes Sex More Fulfilling

Penn State researchers did a study with respect to sexual experience and sexual connection where they questioned 98 women. They found that the majority of women believe that when love is present, the sexual experience is better and more fulfilling. These results were regardless of it being in a marriage or a dating relationship. There are several reasons why it’s believed that this happens, and they are included below.

  1. Love Adds Trust and Comfort to The Mix

This could be counted as two different reasons. However, they are closely related. You can’t trust someone that you don’t know. That means one-night stands will never be able to stand up to the complete sexual experience that love can provide. When love is present, trust is also present. Trust adds a certain level of comfort to the relationship, including in sex. That means when you are making love with someone that you fall in love with, you aren’t worried about being judged.

This connection also means that you can be more open during the sexual experience. You can easily share the things that you like and what you don’t like. You won’t be afraid to ask for the things that you want. And, you know you are loved, and therefore you can relax at a level that you cannot reach when love is absent during sex.

  1. Sex is More Meaningful with Love

Sexual desire is one way to show love to another person. You can have sex without love being present, but then sex is just sex. There is nothing more to it. Even if you physically enjoy it, there will be a level of emptiness that comes with making love when love is absent. There is no real meaning to it. You know that it leads to nothing else. However, when you love the person that you are with, it takes the sexual experience to a deeper level. Emotional needs are being met as well as physical needs.

  1. People Try Unsuccessfully to Fill the Void of Love with Sex

You probably know someone that is constantly on the lookout for one-night stands. They aren’t even looking for a relationship they are just looking to hook up. There is no love involved in these types of connections; it is purely sexual. The reason this person has to keep searching for the next experience is that sexual fulfillment is short-term. There is no lasting positive impact from a one-night stand or empty sex. However, if this person starts to experience a loving relationship, they don’t have to go out hunting for the next hook up. Whether they want to admit it or not, they are filling the void of love in their life with sex.

  1. Marriages Without Sex Struggle or Fail

There are plenty of jokes in society about how seldom sex is had once you are married. However, the subject is no laughing matter. It’s a real problem in marriage that leads to all kinds of other issues. In marriage, making love communicates a level of love and desire. You want to be wanted by your spouse. Therefore, if your spouse refuses to have sex with you, the message you are communicating is that you don’t desire them physically, which makes them feel that you do not love them either.

When a marriage continues in this way, there are a few things that tend to happen. The first is that the partner that feels unloved and unwanted will begin to seek that fulfillment from other sources. This can quickly lead to extra-marital affairs. Even if this doesn’t happen, that partner can begin to withdraw from the relationship, which then leaves the other person feeling unloved as well. This causes distances, arguments, and hurt feelings throughout the marriage.

Can My Relationship Survive With Just Sex?

  1. Sex in A Loving Relationship Deepens the Feelings of Love

Couples that love each other tend to have sex more often. When both partners are engaged and have sex regularly, it deepens the feelings of love that they have for each other. This goes back to the first reason listed and the way that your brain works. It’s also why the feelings of love begin to die in sexless marriages.

Love and Sex Are Connected

No matter how hard society tries to remove love from the sexual experience, it is impossible to do. Love and sex are connected. You can have sex without being in love, but it does not lead to any positive long-term situations. Instead, making love without love opens up the door for many difficulties and emotional confusion. In the same way, if you are in a long-term romantic relationship, eventually sex comes into play. One without the other will not work for you long-term.

Problems That Can Arise When You Try to Disconnect the Two

  • Emotional emptiness – When you are having sex without being in love you will always be looking for more because the sexual experience is not meeting the full need of what you are looking for, even if you don’t realize it at the time. You are left with an empty feeling and believe the only way to fill it is with more sex. In reality, a deeper relationship where love is involved in the solution you are looking for.
  • Misunderstood experiences – If you believe that love and sex are the same things, and not just connected, you will be led into sexual experiences because you are seeking love and believe you will find it by making love. This is only setting yourself up to be hurt. Love and sex are connected, but they are not the same. Many people will have sex with you to try to meet their needs, even if they have no feelings of love for you.
  • You either use people or get used by people – When you are in a loving relationship, you both want the same thing which eventually promotes your sexual compatibility. Your sexual experiences are deepening your relationship and you want to please the other both in and out of bed. However, when love is removed from a sexual experience, it is purely selfish. You are either looking for love or looking to have your sexual needs fulfilled. There is a lack of care about what the other person needs. Your focus is on yourself.
  • You lose your relationship – It’s hard to maintain a romantic relationship long-term without making love. If you’ve been married for years and think that making love. isn’t necessary to your relationship anymore, you are wrong. Although you might feel that making love isn’t necessary, there are chances that your spouse doesn’t feel the same way.


  • Bring back date night. Getting back in touch with your spouse can renew your sex life and your love for one another. Make time for the two of you and your relationship will flourish.
  • Start a new hobby together.Making new, fun memories together can renew a lost spark. Find something you will both enjoy and dive in.
  • Your partner won’t have a chance to work on the relationship if they don’t know there’s a problem with it. Communicate your issues, big and small, to protect the love and sex in your relationship.
  • Seek professional help. Troubles that arise in life around love and sex are some of the hardest that there are to work through. Both sex and love are incredibly complex issues that have many variables in play. If you’re struggling with situations in your life because of relationships, talking to a sex therapist can be one of the most effective ways to work through the situation. While both love and sex are deeply personal experiences, sometimes talking to an outside party that is not connected in any way can be the most effective at helping you see what’s happening.

Before you jump into another meaningless sexual relationship or before you lose your marriage due to lack of sex, seek help. Love and sex are undoubtedly connected. Understanding how they are connected and how that impacts your life is the key to finding the balance you desire.

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Sex & Justice: Funny and Weird Sex Laws Around The World

Odd laws sometimes do really exists

One would think there’s nothing wrong with consensual sex between adults. The lawmakers in these regions, however, think otherwise. These sex laws – some still enforced, mind you – will get a couple of laughs and shocked faces from you.


In England

It is illegal for two adult men to have sex in the same house as a third person.

Liverpool: A woman is prohibited by law to walk around topless, unless she is selling exotic fish at the market.

London: It’s illegal to have sex on a parked motorcycle.

Birmingham: It is illegal for a man and woman to have sex “on the steps of any church after the sun goes down”.


It is illegal to kiss on railways in France.


A man may be arrested for wearing a skirt.

Pompeii: A special law was directed at prostitutes. They had to dye their hair either blue, red or yellow in order to be able to work.


In 17th century Spain, it was illegal for anyone other than a woman’s husband to see her bare feet. A woman could freely expose her breasts, but feet were considered sexual and had to be covered in the presence of men other than her husband.


While prostitution is legal, it is illegal to use the services of a prostitute.


In Nepal, Bangladesh and Macao

It is against the law to view movies containing simulated lovemaking or the pubic area of men and women. The law also does not allow kisses to be shown in any film that includes actors from these three countries.

Hong Kong

In Hong Kong, a betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her adulterous husband, but may only do so with her bare hands. The husband’s lover may be killed in any manner desired.


If a person is caught masturbating, they may serve a sentence of up to 2 years and 8 months.


Men are legally allowed to have sex with animals, but the animals must be female.

Saudi Arabia

It is illegal to kiss a stranger.



The first portion of this Mardudjara Aboriginal rite involves a circumcision followed by the circumcised male ingesting his own foreskin. After he heals up, the penis is then cut lengthwise on the underside, sometimes all the way to the scrotum. Blood is then dripped over a fire in order to purify it. From then on, the male will urinate from the underside of his penis instead of the urethra.



“Even the ebb and flow of the Nile was thought to be caused by Atum’s (the God of Creation) ejaculation. This concept spurred the Egyptian Pharaohs to ritually masturbate into the Nile to ensure an abundance of water.

The Americas


It’s an excusable act of passion” in Colombia, South America, for a man to murder his wayward wife when he finds the woman in bed with her lover. If the husband “personally witnesses the corrupt sexual activity,” he’s allowed to shoot his unfaithful spouse. Such adultery-related homicides aren’t even prosecuted.

United States


Incestuous marriages are legal.


Fairbanks: moose are banned from having sex on city streets.


You may not have more than two dildos in the same house.


Little Rock: flirtation and “lascivious banter” between men and women on the streets may result in a 30-day jail term.


It’s illegal to sell stuffed items resembling breasts (“boobie pillows”) within 1000 feet of a highway. Walnut: no man shall dress as a woman without the written permission of the sheriff.


Adams County: male massage parlor workers must wear all white clothing.Keeping a house where unmarried persons are allowed to have sex is prohibited.


Married couples (as well as singles) cannot engage in open “lewdness or lascivious behavior


The term “sadomasochistic abuse” is defined so broadly, that it could possibly be applied to a person handcuffing another in a clown suit.All sex toys are banned.


If you sell a reptile, you must give a written warning not to “nuzzle or kiss” them.


It is illegal for a man to be sexually aroused in public.


Kisses may last for no more than five minutes.


Illegal “sodomy” includes oral sex, but anal penetration with a finger is allowed under specified circumstances.


Dogs must not molest property or people.Until 1975, people wearing bathing suits on any city street were required have a police escort.


Necrophilia is legal.

New Orleans: it’s illegal to use fortune-telling, astrology or palmistry to “settle lovers quarrels.


Making noise in a public library is a crime against “chastity, morality, decency and good order.


A man who seduces or corrupts an unmarried woman faces five years in prison.Flint: low-riding pants that expose underwear are a Class B offense. But if they expose butt cleavage, they’re a Class A offense.


It’s illegal to teach others what polygamy is. Adultery or premarital sex results in a fine of $500 or 6 months in prison.


Prostitution is a “crime against the family.


You can’t get married if you have gonorrhoea.


Sale of sex toys is illegal.

New Hampshire

Kidderville: lingerie must not be hung on a clothesline at the airport, unless there’s a screen concealing it.

New Jersey

Haddon: flirting is illegal.

New Mexico

Nudity is allowed as long as genitals and female nipples are covered.

New York

Adultery is illegal.

North Carolina

Adultery is illegal. And so is pretending to be married in order to share a hotel room.

North Dakota

Fargo: it was illegal to swim naked in the Red River between 8 AM and 8 PM.

Grand Forks: it’s against the law to fail to confine a dog or cat in heat.


No person shall solicit sex from another of the same gender if it offends the second person.


It is illegal for the owner of a bar to allow anyone inside to engage in “acts, or simulated acts, of sexual intercourse, masturbation, sodomy, bestiality, oral copulation, flagellation, or any sexual acts which are otherwise prohibited by law.” So, no simulated intercourse or animal sex.


It’s illegal to lie down in a public restroom, or for two people to share a stall meant for one.


Oral and anal sex are illegal. You cannot cohabit with an “ancestor or descendant.

South Carolina

If a man promises to marry a woman and she sleeps with him, the marriage must take place.

South Dakota

Public erections are illegal.


Students may not hold hands in school.


It’s illegal to own more than six dildos.


It’s illegal to marry your first cousin before the age of 65 — or 55 if you can prove both parties are infertile.Salt Lake City: an adult cannot show sex paraphernalia to a minor, unless they’re your own child.


Adultery is a misdemeanor. Obscenity is a bigger crime if you use a computer.


If you give a sex worker a ride to work, your car can be confiscated.

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What does sex smell like, exactly?

Between kissing, touching, and moaning, sex is a pretty sense-heightening activity, and that includes your sense of smell. I mean, have you ever tried to pinpoint the odor and just kept wondering: What does sex smell like, exactly?

Have you ever noticed a smell during sex?

As it turns out, there are lots of scents—mostly pleasant but occasionally not—that you can sniff out if you pay attention in the bedroom, all combining for that “smells like sex in here!” effect. Here are some common sex smells, according to experts who *know* the human body:

Your scent, your partner’s scent, and the scent of both of you together.

Generally speaking, everyone has their own scent down there, says Jessica Shepherd, MD, a gynecologist in Dallas affiliated with Baylor University Medical Center. That means, even if you’re female and your partner is female, you’ll each have your own scent. And when your genital scent combines with someone else’s genital scent (of any gender), the two of you will together create a different scent, Dr. Shepherd says. Science! This might be why smells vary from partner to partner.


People get wet in a lot of ways during sex, and sweat is another one of them. Perspiration adds a whole other ingredient to the aroma. “That can create different scents as well,” Dr. Shepherd says. 

If your sex sweat makes you at all uncomfortable, as much as you can, try to embrace it. After all, it’s totally normal! Oh, and fun fact: Stress can make your perspiration smell worse, so you might as well relax! Just be sure to wash your sheets on the reg.

A sweet smell

The saccharine smell of whipped cream, the chocolate-y aroma of, well, chocolate sauce… Dr. Shepherd says she thinks food is a great way to enhance sex. And the foods’ smells no doubt play a part in that.

That said, be careful where you put them. “There are certain foods that you should be cautious of that can irritate the vaginal mucosa,” Dr. Shepherd warns. “Sometimes the sugar content in a whipped cream, syrup, or chocolate sauce might irritate the vaginal canal to create a yeast infection or an irritation on the outer part of the vagina.”

You should also be cautious of peppers and other foods that evoke spicy smells; spicy products could cause burning or irritation down below, she says. And “with any food that’s used during sex, make sure that you wash the area after to decrease any irritation of the genitals.”

Flavored condoms

Food-y scents can also come by way of lube or condoms flavored as everything from peppermint to watermelon. You can even find organically flavored lube and condom varieties these days.

If you want to try these babies out, Mary Jane Minkin, MD, clinical professor of obstetrics, gynecology, and reproductive sciences at the Yale School of Medicine, recommends skipping the economy box the first time around. “Please get a small package and see how it does for you, if it irritates or makes things feel itchy or uncomfortable,” she says. If it does, move on to a different one.


Of course, even unflavored condoms can offer up a bit of an odor—a rubbery one. If the condom brand you’re using smells a little too latex-y for your liking, you might try Okamoto 004 Almost Nothing Latex Condoms, which don’t have a strong latex smell

Oh, and if your condom’s latex scent comes with a side of itchiness and irritation right after sex, you may have a latex allergy. The good news: Non-latex condoms exist. They’re made from polyurethane or lambskin, and they’re pretty common in stores. The bad news: Polyurethane condoms may be more expensive and more easily breakable than latex ones, according to Cleveland Clinic, and lambskin condoms won’t protect you against STIs.

A fishy smell

No sex smell should be bad or fishy. If that’s what you’re smelling, reach out to your doctor, because it could be a sign of a bacterial imbalance like bacterial vaginosis, says Dr. Minkin. Your partner might want to get checked out, too, even if he’s a guy: Seminal infections can also produce a fishy odor. Another potential cause of a down-below fishy odor that both women and men can get is the STI trichomoniasis, Dr. Minkin adds. 

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110 Names for BOOBIES!

Boobs, the twins, titties, breasts – we’ve all probably got quite a few names we like to use when referring to our baps – and now someone has finally put them all in one wonderful list.

Firstly – lets start with what is a breast?

The breast is the tissue overlying the chest (pectoral) muscles.

Women’s breasts are made of specialized tissue that produces milk (glandular tissue) as well as fatty tissue. The amount of fat determines the size of the breast.

The milk-producing part of the breast is organized into 15 to 20 sections – called lobes.

Within each lobe are smaller structures, called lobules, where milk is produced. The milk travels through a network of tiny tubes called ducts. The ducts connect and come together into larger ducts, which eventually exit the skin in the nipple. The dark area of skin surrounding the nipple is called the areola.

Connective tissue and ligaments provide support to the breast and give it its shape. Nerves provide sensation to the breast.

The breast also contains blood vessels, lymph vessels, and lymph nodes.

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Here we go!

Let’s start with the scientific names:

1. Mammary Glands

2. Breasts

The Obvious names:

3. Boobs

4. Boobies

5. Tits

Some food-related names:

6. Fiery Biscuits (really!?)

7. Melons

8. Baps

9. Coconuts

10. Yorkshire Puddings

11. Bangers

12. Cream Pies

13. Iced Gems

14. Bacon Hangers

15. Chips and Dips

16. Fried Eggs

17. Cantaloupes

Milky vibes:

18. Milkers

19. Milk Monsters

20. Milk jugs

21. Double Lattes.

Random celebrity names:

22. Brad Pitts

23. Danny Devitos

Double acts:

24. The Twins

25.  Mary-Kate and Ashley

26. Phil and Lil

27. Minnie and Mickey

28. The Mitchell Brothers

29. Pinky and Perky

30. Mario and Luigi

31. Ant and Dec

Animal names:

32. Puppies

33. Snuggle pups

34. Cat Flaps

35. Elephant Ears

36. Udders

37. Spaniel’s Ears

38. Mosquito Bites

Cute names:

39. Noogies

40. Buds

41. Lills

42. ‘The Girls’

43. Snuggle pups

44. Bips

Miscellaneous names:

45. Chebblies

46. Chebs

47.Tig Ol Bitties 

48. Chesticles

49. Maracas

50. Norks

51. Wabs

52. Funbags

53. Slammers

53. Cans

54. Waps

55. Tatas

56. Bazoombas

57. Breasticles

58. Bazookas

59. Ironing board

60. Bristol Cities

61. Cha-chas

62. Bosoms

63. Jubblies

64. Charlies

65. Juganauts

66. Peaks

67. Knockers

68. Rack

69. Shelf

70. Dongles

71. Nunga Nungas

72. Wangers

73. Swingers

74. Air-bags

75. Tatty Bo Jangles

76. Honker Honkers

77. Cans

78. Babylons

79. Bubbalas

80. Nipple Holsters

81. Life Savers

82. Buoyancy aids

83. Orbs

84. Bongos

85. Watties

86. Bouncers

87. Wagons

88.  Built in stress balls.

89. Shoulder Boulders

90. Hooters

91. Muchachas

92. Tube Sock Tiddies

93. Golden Globes.

94. Jubblies.

95. Nunga nungas.

96. Pinch pots.

97. Headlamps.

98. Hindenburgs.

99. Honkerburgers.

100. Tittaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyysssssssss!

Grim names:

101. Man boobs

102. Fleshy Mounds

103. Upper Bollocks

104. TB’s (Top Bollocks)

105. Dirty Pillows

106. Naughty Pillows

107. Two old socks

108. Mud Flaps

109. Wank deposit

110. Chest butt.

Blog By Julez For Styles Rebel Radio

6 Reasons why sex is important in a relationship

Sex is important when it comes to any romantic relationship.  

Sure, there’s much more to a relationship than sex, but getting busy is a major factor in maintaining a healthy, long-term partnership.

After dating for a period of time, many couples allow sex to fall by the wayside. Although this may seem like a normal evolution as relationships become more comfortable, it’s important that you understand why sex is important in a relationship — whether that relationship has been going on for three months or three years.

Sex can improve the connection between you and your partner, decrease stress and could even increase your lifespan!

Reason #1: Intimacy Increases Connection

The words “sex” and “intimacy” can be used interchangeably, but they aren’t always one in the same. Case in point, the connection that comes from sex during a relationship is quite different than that you may feel after a one night stand.

When I talk about why sex is important in a relationship, I’m referring to intimate sex. So what is makes sex intimate?

  • A mutual respect and understanding of one another
  • Clear, open communication about desires as well as boundaries when it comes to sex
  • Comfort with yourself and the other person

Sex is just one aspect that can build intimacy, trust, and longevity in a relationship. And why is this connection so important?

Being able to have an intimate sexual relationship with someone is something that involves complete trust and respect. It also involves foregoing any shame, doubt or insecurity (you are gonna be naked, after all — it doesn’t get much more vulnerable than that) in favor of being with someone in a physical, emotional way.

Reason #2: When That Connection Builds Over Time, it Continually Strengthens the Relationship

Having sex with someone — when it’s not purely for gratification, as with a one night stand or booty call — can be one of the pinnacles in building trust and strength in a relationship.

Sex in a committed relationship is a very special thing. Having sex means sharing yourself completely with someone and — regardless of how pleasurable sex is — it’s an extremely vulnerable state. As a carnal act, sex allows us to let go of our inhibitions, while also allowing us to feed our inhibitions and desires.

In a committed relationship, all these things are reserved for one person, which makes it extremely special and is one more reason why sex matters in a relationship.

Reason #3: Sex is Important for Your Overall Health

The third reason why sex is important in a relationship can actually lower your mortality. 

Want to decrease your visits to the doctor? Put in some time in the bedroom to prevent a sick day or two.

Getting busy isn’t just about a good time, people — it could actually save your life!

According to a bevy of studies, intercourse boasts a plethora of health benefits, including:

  • Decreased stress and anxiety
  • Greater ability to fight off colds and infections
  • Better memory
  • Increased fitness levels
  • Pain relief
  • Better sleep
  • A more youthful appearance (no, really!)
  • Decreased risk of heart disease and certain cancers

Looking at this list, it’s easy to see why sex is important in a relationship. And as far as taking care of your health goes, this is definitely one of the more enjoyable methods — i.e., getting busy definitely beats going on a juice cleanse.

Reason #4: Sex Can Contribute to Happiness

Saying that sex makes us happy may seem like stating the obvious, but allow me to elaborate.

That after sex glow that leaves you grinning from ear to ear can carry over into your overall happiness as a couple.

According to research published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, couples who have sex once a week tend to be happier overall — significantly happier than couples who reported having sex once a month or less.

Moreover, for whatever reason, the “once a week” method seemed to yield the greatest results. A caveat is that, although this is frequent, going much above this number can lead to discomfort and negatively impact your relationship.

Basically, if your sex life is getting in the way of your daily responsibilities, it’s time to slow down.

Reason #5: It’s Important for You to Both Feel Desirable

One semi-obvious reason sex matters in a relationship is desirability. Feeling desirable comes from more than physical elements of a relationship. Still, it’s undeniable that sex is an important component in letting both you and your partner know that — no matter how long you’ve been together — ya still got IT!

For both men and women, feeling desirable is essential to happiness and confidence in a relationship. We often hear about the importance of letting women know they are desirable, but this emphasis can sometimes come at the cost of male self-esteem.  

Society can often lead women to mistakenly believe that, in order for a man to enjoy sex and feel desirable, they can simply show up. If a man is able to climax, some women may assume he is good to go and won’t give a second thought to the fact that she wasn’t feeling it.

But according to research, feeling desirable is just as important to men. And if the woman a man is with is noticeably disinterested in sex, it’s not going to make for a very intimate or enjoyable situation for the guy.

Surveyed men indicated that the following were important to them and made them feel desirable:

  • Compliments about physical appearance
  • Enthusiasm during sex
  • Initiating sex

For women, any form of sex has the potential to leave them feeling desirable, but the highest form of desirability comes when sex is a part of love. Attraction and sexual desire are just as much about mental stimulation as physical stimulation for women.

Below are some additional ways you can use sex to increase a feeling of desirability for you and your partner. 

Good Sex Requires Practice

As with most things in life, practice makes perfect!

Sex is no exception.

A mistake many couples make as they get further into a relationship is allowing comfort to replace libido.

Now, it’s completely understandable that the gotta-have-you-right-then-and-there desire that accompanies that honeymoon phase of dating will dim somewhat, but that doesn’t mean you and your partner can’t still get creative when it comes to knocking boots.

Communication, Communication, Communication

It’s important that you and your partner keep sexual discussions open and frequent. These discussions should feel safe and free of judgment, which will allow both you and your lady to open up about what you both want out of your sexual relationship — what you want more of, what you haven’t tried yet, and what you’d prefer to STOP doing.

Be prepared to put your pride aside and not take things personally. For example, maybe something you enjoy (and assumed your partner enjoyed) during sex is something like light hair pulling. But then, once you allow her to have the floor on what she does and doesn’t like, she lets you know that it’s just not her thing.

Remember that this is not a critique of your sexual prowess — this is simply a matter of personal preference.

Being able to communicate and set boundaries will leave you both feeling more comfortable and open during sex, which can ALSO lead sexual activity to become more frequent.

Reason #6: Discover Something New

A final reason why sex is important in a relationship is that it allows you to consistently be surprised (pleasantly, that is) by your partner, and vice versa.

The more often you and your partner have sex, the more likely it is that you’ll get into a rhythm you both enjoy AND that you may discover new positions, foreplay etc. that work well for each of you, thus improving your sex life and emotional connection.

Now Go Get Busy!!

blog by Julez for Styles Rebel Radio

A Beginner’s Guide to Kink ;)

When people hear “kink” they often think of things like BDSM—chains, whips, restraints, etc. Sure, kink can include those things. But really, it’s simply a sexual act that’s seen as unconventional—and can add excitement and fun into your sex life!

Kink is usually looked at through the lens of what a given culture or society deems normal, but it’s also relative to each couple and individual. If the missionary position seems foreign to you, but you don’t think twice about using blindfolds, missionary could be defined as one of your kinks.

Kink sometimes gets a bad or shameful reputation in society, but it can be a perfectly normal and healthy expression of sexual interests. Research even shows people who practice BDSM are less neurotic, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, have higher subjective well-being and other great things. Wanting to explore doesn’t make you weird; it makes you open to an experience that could enhance your sex life!

There are so many different manifestations of kink that it’d be impossible to touch upon them all in one article. Below, the focus is on introducing activities you and your partner could try right away, rather than discussing the more complex or layered manifestations of kink. After all, there are literally dozens of different kinks out there, ranging from things like mummification to pony play.

Think of this as your guide to getting started and know there’s plenty more to explore if you enjoy it.

Preparing for a Positive Experience

It’s always important to engage in clear discussions about desires, expectations and boundaries before you try something new in bed, but it’s even more important when kink is involved. If you’ll be exploring light pain, for example, you’ll want to ensure you don’t walk away feeling physically and/or emotionally hurt by your partner. Ensuring everyone is on the same page helps foster a positive sexual encounter for all involved.

Each partner should take time to identify what they are dying to try, what they are open to exploring if it’s their partner’s desire and what they don’t want to do. Then talk about it and decide how the encounter will go. For example, maybe you decide to try handcuffs, but only during foreplay. The more explicit you can both be about your expectations and boundaries, the better the experience will be.

Engaging in a Positive Experience

Try starting out small. Avoid trying a bunch of new activities right from the start as this can get overwhelming. Pick one or two things to try. You can always add in more later on down the line.

It’s also helpful to proactively check in with your partner throughout the experience. Ask questions to see what they feel like doing, such as, “Would you like to tie me up now?” or “Can I pull your hair?” Since so much of exploring kink with your partner is dependent on communication, never be afraid to ask questions. Plus, far as we’re concerned, it’s just good manners to ask someone how hard they want to be spanked.

Keep in mind you may need to adjust as you go. Maybe you have to re-tie the restraints because someone’s arm got uncomfortable or you take the blindfold off because it wasn’t enjoyable. It’s all part of the learning experience.

Beginner Kink Activities

The world of kink is vast and really only limited by your imagination. Below are some common ways to dip your toes into the water.


Removing visual stimuli can help make it easier to focus on touch sensations happening on your body. It can also make sensations stronger since you won’t know what’s going to happen or where. All you need is his tie, a sleep mask, a scarf or some other material that will block out light and not be uncomfortable against your skin.

Blindfolds are fun everywhere, and can be used in everything from foreplay to full-on sex.

Hand Ties

Restricting your hands can give you one less thing to think about, which can make it easier to get into the moment. You won’t need to worry about whether you should be scratching his back, massaging his neck, etc. Instead, you’ll be in, “can’t do anything but receive pleasure” mode. Many women find this to be especially enjoyable while receiving oral.

Or maybe you want to flip the script and tie your partner up. Many women find this approach helps them feel dominant and powerful. You can even try both approaches to see which you and your partner enjoy more.

You can use a variety of materials for bondage, such as a scarf or rope. Aim for tight enough to restrict your range of motion, but not so tight that it hurts or you feel trapped. A good rule of thumb is tying it so you can still slip two fingers between the material and the skin.

Biting, Scratching, and Spanking

These sharp sensations can create a great contrast to gentle touch. They can give bodies a jolt of energy, make other sensations more sensitive and even release endorphins. Beginners usually don’t want these to actually feel painful and instead focus on them creating a new feeling on the skin. Wait until the partner is really turned on as this will increase their pain tolerance and help generate a better sensation.

For biting, some good spots are the neck, the shoulders and the butt. For scratching, you can consult the Kama Sutra for some great technique recommendations. One favorite is the “peacock’s foot”, which involves scratching the breast with all five nails. This can be done towards or away from the nipple. For spanking, try rubbing the area first before you smack. You can use a hand, a wooden spoon or even a paddle from a sex toy shop.


Aftercare is a term used to describe the process of checking in together after a kink session. It often involves nurturing your partner through cuddling, tender kissing and talking about things. Go over what you did and did not enjoy. One or both partners may struggle with feeling a little distant afterwards or shame about engaging in less common sexual acts. Talk through how you both felt, what you didn’t like and what you can’t wait to try again. Keep exploring kink and you’ll find some great ways to add to your sex life.

This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. The information contained herein is not a substitute for and should never be relied upon for professional medical advice. Always talk to your doctor about the risks and benefits of any treatment.

blog by Julez for Styles Rebel Radio

What Your Hogwarts House Says About Your Sex Life

We’re all very sad that Cedric Diggory is dead, but can I just say something even sadder? Cedric Diggory isn’t just dead — he died a virgin (who can’t drive!). I mean, yes, that is just an assumption on my part, and no, sex is not required for a fulfilling human existence (or necessarily ever even taught at Hogwarts), but also just like…Cedric. (OK, I’m objectifying a 17-year-old boy who basically wears a cape, so I’m cutting myself off.) What I’m trying to say without actually saying “YOLO” is that our time on this earth is limited, and there is no point in denying that Hogwarts graduates itself some sexy, sexy beasts. And if you’re looking to navigate that field of sexy, you can actually tell a lot about a person’s sex life based on what Hogwarts house they’re in.

Full disclosure, guys: I am a Hufflepuff/Slytherin hybrid. The actual sorting hat in the actual Pottermore game told me so. It is based off of this experience and the experiences of my Gryffindor and Ravenclaw friends that I can attest to the individual prowesses of each house to a pretty damn accurate degree, so gather round, all ye Potterheads. Here’s what your house says about your sex life:


The sex you’re having: You’re havin’ sex all day, erryday—and the weirder it is, the better. Risk-taking turns you on like whoa, and during sexy games of “truth or dare” you are always, always, always “dare”. Despite all your sexnanigans, you have a relationship heavily rooted in mutual trust. Your safe word is “snarfalump.”

Where you’re having it: The edge of the Forbidden Forest. Muggles’ cars. On broomsticks in midair. Mid-apparating. IF YOU CAN DREAM IT, YOU CAN DO IT.

Sex jam of choice: “Get Lucky,” Daft Punk.


The kind of sex you’re having: Intimate, missionary, incredibly chatty sex. Yeah, you blow each other’s minds, but sex can also randomly turn into an impromptu book club or intense discussion about what kind of takeout you want delivered. Seamless is your love language.

Where you’re having it: The bedroom. Under the boardwalk. In the rain. Anywhere you’ve seen it done in a rom com.

Sex jam of choice: “Let’s Get It On,” Marvin Gaye. Hufflepuffs—#basic and proud.


What kind of sex you’re having: Anyone who thought that the nerds were having humdrum, textbook sex is ridonkulously wrong. Ravenclaws rival Gryffindors on the experimentation front, and are willing to try anything once. They are the pros of shameless, open communication during sex, and are rarely if ever self-conscious doing the deed.

Where you’re having it: In the office. In the ~restricted section~. Near the fireplace. In front of some cats.

Sex jam of choice: “Love Me Like You Do,” Ellie Goulding.


What kind of sex you’re having: You will never have a partner as dedicated to gettin’ you some as a Slytherin. They’ve got unparalleled ambition, and your orgasm is game, set, MATCH. However, they will not hesitate to blue ball you the moment you make a “slither … in” joke. THIS HAS BEEN A PSA. Don’t say you weren’t warned.

Where you’re having it: Your bedroom. Other people’s bedrooms. The very expensive heirloom couch your dead grandmother left you.

Sex jam of choice: “Feelin’ Myself,” Nicki Minaj and Beyoncé.

blog by Julez for Styles Rebel Radio