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Nationalism is NOT bad

The past few years have seen the term “nationalism” take quite the beating, being warped and twisted by the main stream media as well as social networks. It’s important to remember just what nationalism really stands for.

While the term “Nationalism” has seemingly taken on a negative connotation over the past few years, be assured that being a nationalist is not, and should never be seen as disparaging. While surely there are multiple instances we can trace to the shift in attitude surrounding nationalism, none seem to be as apparent in America as the 2016 presidential election and the events leading up to it. With much of then-candidate Donald Trump’s campaign being based around bringing jobs back to The United States rather than outsourcing our country’s workforce, the “Make America Great Again” movement relied heavily on nationalistic morals. This is seemingly where much of the divide and confusion stemmed from. As the 2016 presidential election rolled on, American citizens, politicians, and media sources alike who opposed the Trump lead, Republican campaign began to make unwarranted claims of “racism” due to the foundations his run was established on. While his opposition saw building border walls around the southern United States and tightening voting laws as an act of prejudice, in actuality these ideas were backed by the simple plan of strengthening America from within and taking the time to rely on ourselves as a nation once again for Jobs, Income, and Economic growth. Because of this, often times we saw the term “Nationalism” linked alongside “Racism” or “prejudice” by the Republican party’s opposition. Still to this day, this stigma remains despite President Joe Biden holding office now for his third year, this issue has surpassed a single isolated election.

The Issue with Aligning Nationalism to a Political Party

This issue is much deeper at this point than red vs. blue. Because of the events surrounding the 2016 election onward, people seem to affiliate nationalism with The Republican Party, however, the nationalism they align is this new misconstrued warped, evil view of it. Let it be perfectly clear,
Nationalism is not a party. Nationalism is not Republican. Nationalism is not Democrat.

At its core, behind all the mud-slinging, all the media discrepancy, all the slander campaigns, Nationalism is quite simply the belief in your own nation. Being a nationalist does not mean you agree wholeheartedly with any particular politician, political party, or even the United States Government as a whole because nationalism is not political. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting your country to succeed, being thankful that you have been blessed with the opportunities you have because of this nation, and most importantly, regardless of who may hold the oval office and how your beliefs align with theirs, being proud of the place you are from and wanting it to get better. Being a nationalist by no means implies you think America is flawless, on the contrary, it means you want to see it improve, grow, and become stronger and better than ever.

On September 11th, 2001, The United States of America suffered one of, if not THE most, tragic events on US soil to date. On that day and the days following, we as Americans were hurt, confused, angry, and lost, but we weren’t alone. We stood tall together. We cried, prayed, fought, and rallied together. We did this not as Republicans, Not as Democrats, but as Americans. In this tragic event, we were reminded how small we really are. More importantly, were reminded that in this crazy world, we still had each other, our fellow Americans. together we watched along at home as Neil Armstrong became the first man to step foot on the moon, we wept together when President John F. Kennedy was taken from us right before our eyes, we rejoiced together as Osama Bin Laden was brought down by American forces. All of this we did together, as Americans.

That is what Nationalism is.

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7 Reasons Why Love And Sex Go Together

Love and sex are two different things. However, there are very different opinions in the society about how they connect. Some believe that the two are almost interchangeable. They assume that if sex is present, then love is as well. This can lead down some very rough roads. Others believe that the two aren’t connected at all. They believe that you can easily have one without the other without any lasting effects. However, there are many reasons why love and sex go together, including the following:

Can My Relationship Survive With Just Sex?

  1. Love and Sexual Desire Come from The Same Place

If you want to leave emotion and opinion out of the debate about if love and sex go together, science has proven that they are connected. Canadian researchers conducted a study in 2012 that found the part of your brain that handles emotions is where sexual desire comes from. Both emotional love and sexual desire are from the insular cortex. These findings lead people to believe that the two are connected to a level that removes our choice from it. We can choose to have sex when love is not present, but it can be difficult for emotions to handle.

Sexual desire and love lead to some of the same reactions in your brain. That means it can be easy to confuse what you are experiencing. This is why some people struggle to think that they are in love after they have sex when the other person doesn’t. Science also explains that this makes sex even better when you are in love because you are getting a double dose of the chemicals that make you feel good. We’ll explain these later in the article.

  1. Love Makes Sex More Fulfilling

Penn State researchers did a study with respect to sexual experience and sexual connection where they questioned 98 women. They found that the majority of women believe that when love is present, the sexual experience is better and more fulfilling. These results were regardless of it being in a marriage or a dating relationship. There are several reasons why it’s believed that this happens, and they are included below.

  1. Love Adds Trust and Comfort to The Mix

This could be counted as two different reasons. However, they are closely related. You can’t trust someone that you don’t know. That means one-night stands will never be able to stand up to the complete sexual experience that love can provide. When love is present, trust is also present. Trust adds a certain level of comfort to the relationship, including in sex. That means when you are making love with someone that you fall in love with, you aren’t worried about being judged.

This connection also means that you can be more open during the sexual experience. You can easily share the things that you like and what you don’t like. You won’t be afraid to ask for the things that you want. And, you know you are loved, and therefore you can relax at a level that you cannot reach when love is absent during sex.

  1. Sex is More Meaningful with Love

Sexual desire is one way to show love to another person. You can have sex without love being present, but then sex is just sex. There is nothing more to it. Even if you physically enjoy it, there will be a level of emptiness that comes with making love when love is absent. There is no real meaning to it. You know that it leads to nothing else. However, when you love the person that you are with, it takes the sexual experience to a deeper level. Emotional needs are being met as well as physical needs.

  1. People Try Unsuccessfully to Fill the Void of Love with Sex

You probably know someone that is constantly on the lookout for one-night stands. They aren’t even looking for a relationship they are just looking to hook up. There is no love involved in these types of connections; it is purely sexual. The reason this person has to keep searching for the next experience is that sexual fulfillment is short-term. There is no lasting positive impact from a one-night stand or empty sex. However, if this person starts to experience a loving relationship, they don’t have to go out hunting for the next hook up. Whether they want to admit it or not, they are filling the void of love in their life with sex.

  1. Marriages Without Sex Struggle or Fail

There are plenty of jokes in society about how seldom sex is had once you are married. However, the subject is no laughing matter. It’s a real problem in marriage that leads to all kinds of other issues. In marriage, making love communicates a level of love and desire. You want to be wanted by your spouse. Therefore, if your spouse refuses to have sex with you, the message you are communicating is that you don’t desire them physically, which makes them feel that you do not love them either.

When a marriage continues in this way, there are a few things that tend to happen. The first is that the partner that feels unloved and unwanted will begin to seek that fulfillment from other sources. This can quickly lead to extra-marital affairs. Even if this doesn’t happen, that partner can begin to withdraw from the relationship, which then leaves the other person feeling unloved as well. This causes distances, arguments, and hurt feelings throughout the marriage.

Can My Relationship Survive With Just Sex?

  1. Sex in A Loving Relationship Deepens the Feelings of Love

Couples that love each other tend to have sex more often. When both partners are engaged and have sex regularly, it deepens the feelings of love that they have for each other. This goes back to the first reason listed and the way that your brain works. It’s also why the feelings of love begin to die in sexless marriages.

Love and Sex Are Connected

No matter how hard society tries to remove love from the sexual experience, it is impossible to do. Love and sex are connected. You can have sex without being in love, but it does not lead to any positive long-term situations. Instead, making love without love opens up the door for many difficulties and emotional confusion. In the same way, if you are in a long-term romantic relationship, eventually sex comes into play. One without the other will not work for you long-term.

Problems That Can Arise When You Try to Disconnect the Two

  • Emotional emptiness – When you are having sex without being in love you will always be looking for more because the sexual experience is not meeting the full need of what you are looking for, even if you don’t realize it at the time. You are left with an empty feeling and believe the only way to fill it is with more sex. In reality, a deeper relationship where love is involved in the solution you are looking for.
  • Misunderstood experiences – If you believe that love and sex are the same things, and not just connected, you will be led into sexual experiences because you are seeking love and believe you will find it by making love. This is only setting yourself up to be hurt. Love and sex are connected, but they are not the same. Many people will have sex with you to try to meet their needs, even if they have no feelings of love for you.
  • You either use people or get used by people – When you are in a loving relationship, you both want the same thing which eventually promotes your sexual compatibility. Your sexual experiences are deepening your relationship and you want to please the other both in and out of bed. However, when love is removed from a sexual experience, it is purely selfish. You are either looking for love or looking to have your sexual needs fulfilled. There is a lack of care about what the other person needs. Your focus is on yourself.
  • You lose your relationship – It’s hard to maintain a romantic relationship long-term without making love. If you’ve been married for years and think that making love. isn’t necessary to your relationship anymore, you are wrong. Although you might feel that making love isn’t necessary, there are chances that your spouse doesn’t feel the same way.

Solutions

  • Bring back date night. Getting back in touch with your spouse can renew your sex life and your love for one another. Make time for the two of you and your relationship will flourish.
  • Start a new hobby together.Making new, fun memories together can renew a lost spark. Find something you will both enjoy and dive in.
  • Your partner won’t have a chance to work on the relationship if they don’t know there’s a problem with it. Communicate your issues, big and small, to protect the love and sex in your relationship.
  • Seek professional help. Troubles that arise in life around love and sex are some of the hardest that there are to work through. Both sex and love are incredibly complex issues that have many variables in play. If you’re struggling with situations in your life because of relationships, talking to a sex therapist can be one of the most effective ways to work through the situation. While both love and sex are deeply personal experiences, sometimes talking to an outside party that is not connected in any way can be the most effective at helping you see what’s happening.

Before you jump into another meaningless sexual relationship or before you lose your marriage due to lack of sex, seek help. Love and sex are undoubtedly connected. Understanding how they are connected and how that impacts your life is the key to finding the balance you desire.

blog by Julez for Styles Rebel Radio

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